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Resolved

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Friday, November 30, 2012, In : Valuing Self 

 

According to a survey of 3,000 participants, 88 percent of all New Years resolutions end in failure. Resolving yourself to pursue a healthy change in your life is very important in beginning to achieve sustained growth.  However, you are most likely to achieve that healthy change if you begin today. Waiting for a certain date in the future greatly decreases the likelihood of you being successful at achieving what you have resolved yourself to.  Start today.  Not next week, or after next mont...


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Choose Your Spouse

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Friday, December 2, 2011, In : Marriage 



If you were to ask your closest friends and family members what or who is number one in your life, what would they say?  Would it be work, would it be your children, would it be your parents, your siblings?  The biggest question is what would your spouse say.  Do they feel like you chose them as number one in your life?

The process of choosing your spouse as number one can be difficult as often you have to let go of things you have been using for security in your life (habits, unhealthy fr...


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Forgiveness

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Tuesday, July 26, 2011, In : Grief 

Many people struggle with the idea of forgiveness for many reasons.  The biggest reason often is because the hurt and pain that someone else has inflicted on them is so great, so deep, that the idea of forgiveness seems impossible.  Indeed, there are many wounds in life that are very hard to forgive.  Abuse, betrayal, lies, cheating, and many others create great pain and tension in our lives.  The problem with not being able to eventually forgive, is that we continue to carry these wounds w...


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Overcome Depression

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Monday, July 11, 2011, In : Depression 

We all experience some form of depression in our lives.  Feeling down, sad, alone, and discouraged can happen to anyone.  However, it is when you are unable to overcome these feelings over time, or they continue to grow in strength that more intentional action needs to be taken.  Clinical depression is defined most directly by consistent feelings of hopelessness and helplessness.  The belief that nothing will ever get better and there is nothing that you can do to improve your situation.  T...


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Does Separation Lead to Divorce

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Monday, June 27, 2011, In : Marriage 


Many couples that we work with are at a crossroads in their relationship.  They are trying to decide if it really can work, or if it will not.  Every couple is different and therefore it is impossible to make broad statements about separation and divorce.  That said, the first thing to determine is which of the two paths you are on, divorce or restoration of your marriage.  Depending on how you both answer this question makes a huge difference in the steps you would take in your relationshi...


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Manage Your Emotions

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Monday, June 13, 2011, In : Relationships 



Here we want to discuss some very practical tips on how to manage your emotions as adapted from materials by Gary J. Oliver on Emotional Relational Intelligence (ERQ).  The first step is to take a time out. Don’t let emotions escalate to the point that people are no longer talking, screaming or ignoring each other. Step back and create space either PHYSICALLY or INTERNALLY .  Set a reasonable time limit (20 minutes) when both parties agree to reconvene. 

 

The next step may seem obvi...


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Finding Your Career Palm Beach Miami

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Monday, May 16, 2011, In : Career 


The average person born in the latter years of the baby boom held 11 jobs from age 18 to age 44, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics of the U.S. Department of Labor.  It can be a long process to find a career we truly enjoy.  The work we do does much more than just provide an income.  It consumes the majority of our days during our time on earth.  For many it becomes an identity.  A definition of who they are.  For others it is simply a means to an end.  Surviving the grind until th...


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Connecting With Your Teen – Palm Beach, Florida

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Wednesday, May 4, 2011, In : Parenting 

What in the world happened to that sweet little child that you once knew?  To the one who listened to what you said?  Who looked up to you?  Who wasn’t afraid to hug you in public?  Many parents fear the transition from child to adolescent.  The great change that happens both physically and socially (friendships, school, etc.) can be very intimidating.  The majority of parents feel completely unprepared for the teenage yea

Your once obedient child begins to push the limits in many ways y...


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Emotional Intelligence Palm Beach

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Monday, April 18, 2011, In : Valuing Self 


There is no question that one’s emotional intelligence has profound impact on success in both personal relationships and career.  Your ability to be self-aware and aware of others emotions will play a bigger role than your IQ when it comes to reaching your fullest potential in all areas of life. 

The first step in growing your emotional intelligence is to build self-awareness and self-management.  Self-awareness means having an accurate self-assessment, being conscious and present in reg...


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Restoring Marriage after an Affair – Palm Beach Gardens, FL

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Monday, April 4, 2011, In : Marriage 

 

Over the years we have seen a growing number of couples that are seeking counseling to restore their marriage after an affair.  These have included both sexual and emotional affairs.  They have involved a past relationship that was recently discovered, a recent relationship, or relationships with several people outside the marriage over a period of time.  The emotional and relational devastation that any type of affair brings on a marriage is often very difficult to recover from.  Howe...


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Grief and Loss - Palm Beach

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Tuesday, March 22, 2011, In : Grief 



When most of us think of having a loss, we often think of losing a family member, friend or loved one.  There is no question that the death of someone close to us is a huge loss that needs to be grieved.  One of the most helpful ways to begin processing a loss is to hand write about it.  There is something powerful that happens as you allow your hurt, confusion, anger, sadness, desperation, pain, and anxiety to flow out of you, through the pen, and onto the page.  Write about the situation,...


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Prioritizing Your Marriage

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Monday, March 7, 2011, In : Marriage 



There are many things that can draw our attention and focus away from marriage.  Some of the biggest are children, jobs, general business and outside relationships.  It is essential to prioritize your marriage if you want to see it grow and process.  There are many areas that are important to grow in as you prioritize your marriage, but the one that we want to discuss today is pursuing intimacy.

By intimacy, we don’t just mean physical intimacy.  Intimacy is an avenue of connection.  S...


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Emotional Intelligence Presentation Jan. 29 West Palm Beach

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Tuesday, January 25, 2011, In : Valuing Self 


What is Emotional Intelligence?

Gary Oliver defines emotional intelligence (EQ) as:

“The ability to be aware of, recognize and understand our own feelings and those of others and to constructively manage those emotions in ourselves and in our relationships.”  Emotional intelligence has been shown to be a greater predictor of success in life, jobs, marriage, parenting and relationships than IQ.  EQ begins with having an accurate self-assessment and awareness which means knowing what ou...


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