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Resolved

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Friday, November 30, 2012, In : Valuing Self

According to a survey of 3,000 participants, 88 percent of all New Years resolutions end in failure. Resolving yourself to pursue a healthy change in your life is very important in beginning to achieve sustained growth. However, you are most likely to achieve that healthy change if you begin today. Waiting for a certain date in the future greatly decreases the likelihood of you being successful at achieving what you have resolved yourself to. Start today. Not next week, or after next mont...

Will We Get Divorced?

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Tuesday, November 1, 2011, In : Marriage

When a couple in conflict comes in for marriage therapy, the first thing that is most often observed is not the words that they say. Though many times the words may be very hurtful, sad, discouraging, or raw, it is what the body communicates that is often more important. John Gottman from the Gottman Relationship Institute highlights one of the first things he looks for during the first session with a couple. It is body language that unconsciously communicates contempt for their partner....

Improving Your Sex Life – Palm Beach Gardens

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Monday, August 22, 2011, In : Marriage

One of the most important areas within a marriage is the sexual relationship. This area has great potential for connection and intimacy, but also great potential for hurt and rejection. In many ways, the sexual relationship is the relational barometer of a marriage. If you are having sex frequently and are both feeling connected during sex, it is likely that is a result of you handling other areas of your marriage well. If you have healthy communication, good conflict management, equal ...

Does Separation Lead to Divorce

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Monday, June 27, 2011, In : Marriage

Many couples that we work with are at a crossroads in their relationship. They are trying to decide if it really can work, or if it will not. Every couple is different and therefore it is impossible to make broad statements about separation and divorce. That said, the first thing to determine is which of the two paths you are on, divorce or restoration of your marriage. Depending on how you both answer this question makes a huge difference in the steps you would take in your relationshi...

Restoring Marriage after an Affair – Palm Beach Gardens, FL

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Monday, April 4, 2011, In : Marriage

Over the years we have seen a growing number of couples that are seeking counseling to restore their marriage after an affair. These have included both sexual and emotional affairs. They have involved a past relationship that was recently discovered, a recent relationship, or relationships with several people outside the marriage over a period of time. The emotional and relational devastation that any type of affair brings on a marriage is often very difficult to recover from. Howe...

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Prioritizing Your Marriage

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Monday, March 7, 2011, In : Marriage

There are many things that can draw our attention and focus away from marriage. Some of the biggest are children, jobs, general business and outside relationships. It is essential to prioritize your marriage if you want to see it grow and process. There are many areas that are important to grow in as you prioritize your marriage, but the one that we want to discuss today is pursuing intimacy.

By intimacy, we don’t just mean physical intimacy. Intimacy is an avenue of connection. S...

Help Effectively Parenting your Child or Teen

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Monday, January 10, 2011, In : Parenting

The key to success in any parenting is consistency. If you can maintain consistency in your approach over a set period of time (which the length of that time often is directly correlated to how strong willed your child or teen may be), you communicate that you are not moving and thus they begin to move in the ways they need to. In fact, children crave this consistency as it provides an anchor for them in their lives. They can always count on you to have a certain response to an...

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how to improve marriage- palm beach county

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Friday, December 10, 2010, In : Marriage

Marriage can provide the greatest opportunities for connection, love and intimacy. Because we open our hearts so vulnerably to our spouses, we can also experience great pain and struggle in our marriages. That is why it is essential to consistently be seeking to improve your marriage and connection with your spouse.

Throughout our years in counseling, there has been no greater joy than to see a couple move from a place of hopelessness in their marriage to a place of health and growth. The...

Regain Perspective on Life

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Tuesday, November 16, 2010, In : Valuing Self

In our American culture, most of us are constantly going mach 5 with our hair on fire in regards to our daily schedules. In other words, we are extremely busy. There are countless distractions competing for our time and attention. The problem with this constant spin cycle is that we rarely slow down enough to hear our own thoughts. If we don't allow ourselves the opportunity to quite the noises all around us, it is very easy to lose perspective on life.

One of the most powerfu...

Care for Yourself West Palm Beach

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Wednesday, November 10, 2010, In : Valuing Self

Welcome to the Oliver Counseling blog. This blog is dedicated to providing you with weekly insights into mental, emotional and relational health. It is also a place that you can bring your questions about mental health, relationships or counseling in general. We can take your questions through email and provide answers to them in the form of future blog entries.

A great place to start as you pursue health in your life is to ask yourself this question, do you value yourself? Furthermore,...