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Guard Your Heart

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Wednesday, October 19, 2011, In : Valuing Self 


We often hear in life that we need to guard our hearts from the hurts and wounds of others.  The challenge is finding the balance between guarding your heart and putting your heart out there in relationships with those you trust to build connection and intimacy.  Rather than guarding your heart, we prefer to call this balance of protection and vulnerability “valuing your heart”. 

Many of us have been deeply wounded in relationships.  The wounds may be abuse in the past or present, a p...


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Overcome Addiction Florida

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Monday, October 3, 2011, In : Valuing Self 



One of the greatest thieves that we allow into our daily lives is that of addiction.  Some of you might read that word and want to skip to the next entry thinking it doesn’t apply to you.  I can guarantee it does.  Consider the following description of addiction (the best definition of addiction I have every read) by the author Gerald May from his book Addiction and Grace:

"I am convinced that all human beings have an inborn desire for God.  Whether we are consciously religious or not, thi...


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Cure for Anxiety

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Tuesday, September 6, 2011, In : Anxiety 



I wanted to discuss something my father-in-law shared with me a few weeks ago that I have found to be very profound.  We were having a conversation about tension and anxiety, something that he is very good at freeing people from.  He said that he has found in his life and in the lives of those he has helped that the “antidote” for tension/stress/anxiety is thankfulness and gratitude.  When you look at that from a psychological perspective, there is a great deal of accuracy and truth to ...


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Forgiveness

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Tuesday, July 26, 2011, In : Grief 

Many people struggle with the idea of forgiveness for many reasons.  The biggest reason often is because the hurt and pain that someone else has inflicted on them is so great, so deep, that the idea of forgiveness seems impossible.  Indeed, there are many wounds in life that are very hard to forgive.  Abuse, betrayal, lies, cheating, and many others create great pain and tension in our lives.  The problem with not being able to eventually forgive, is that we continue to carry these wounds w...


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Overcome Depression

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Monday, July 11, 2011, In : Depression 

We all experience some form of depression in our lives.  Feeling down, sad, alone, and discouraged can happen to anyone.  However, it is when you are unable to overcome these feelings over time, or they continue to grow in strength that more intentional action needs to be taken.  Clinical depression is defined most directly by consistent feelings of hopelessness and helplessness.  The belief that nothing will ever get better and there is nothing that you can do to improve your situation.  T...


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Manage Your Emotions

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Monday, June 13, 2011, In : Relationships 



Here we want to discuss some very practical tips on how to manage your emotions as adapted from materials by Gary J. Oliver on Emotional Relational Intelligence (ERQ).  The first step is to take a time out. Don’t let emotions escalate to the point that people are no longer talking, screaming or ignoring each other. Step back and create space either PHYSICALLY or INTERNALLY .  Set a reasonable time limit (20 minutes) when both parties agree to reconvene. 

 

The next step may seem obvi...


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Community and Friendship Palm Beach Gardens

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Tuesday, May 31, 2011, In : Relationships 



We are made for community.  When it comes down to it, life really is all about relationships.  A common struggle for many is surrounding yourself with a healthy community of people.  People that know, support and love you.  People that will challenge and hold you accountable.  People you can be yourself around and be vulnerable to.

We often joke that there needs to be a website like match.com or eharmony.com that is for friends rather than for romantic relationships.  Many individuals and ...


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Connecting With Your Teen – Palm Beach, Florida

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Wednesday, May 4, 2011, In : Parenting 

What in the world happened to that sweet little child that you once knew?  To the one who listened to what you said?  Who looked up to you?  Who wasn’t afraid to hug you in public?  Many parents fear the transition from child to adolescent.  The great change that happens both physically and socially (friendships, school, etc.) can be very intimidating.  The majority of parents feel completely unprepared for the teenage yea

Your once obedient child begins to push the limits in many ways y...


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Emotional Intelligence Palm Beach

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Monday, April 18, 2011, In : Valuing Self 


There is no question that one’s emotional intelligence has profound impact on success in both personal relationships and career.  Your ability to be self-aware and aware of others emotions will play a bigger role than your IQ when it comes to reaching your fullest potential in all areas of life. 

The first step in growing your emotional intelligence is to build self-awareness and self-management.  Self-awareness means having an accurate self-assessment, being conscious and present in reg...


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Grief and Loss - Palm Beach

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Tuesday, March 22, 2011, In : Grief 



When most of us think of having a loss, we often think of losing a family member, friend or loved one.  There is no question that the death of someone close to us is a huge loss that needs to be grieved.  One of the most helpful ways to begin processing a loss is to hand write about it.  There is something powerful that happens as you allow your hurt, confusion, anger, sadness, desperation, pain, and anxiety to flow out of you, through the pen, and onto the page.  Write about the situation,...


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Prioritizing Your Marriage

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Monday, March 7, 2011, In : Marriage 



There are many things that can draw our attention and focus away from marriage.  Some of the biggest are children, jobs, general business and outside relationships.  It is essential to prioritize your marriage if you want to see it grow and process.  There are many areas that are important to grow in as you prioritize your marriage, but the one that we want to discuss today is pursuing intimacy.

By intimacy, we don’t just mean physical intimacy.  Intimacy is an avenue of connection.  S...


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Emotional Benefits of Exercise – South Florida

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Monday, February 21, 2011, In : Valuing Self 


    
     We often completely dismiss the profound connection that exists between the physical and the emotional in. Yet when it comes to any variety of emotional struggles that we are having, it is often best to first look to the physical.  This allows one to cancel out any possible physical effects on our emotional states.

            If you have not had a recent physical, that is often a great first step.  Next it is important to look at your sleep, diet and exercise.  Those three a...


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how to improve marriage- palm beach county

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Friday, December 10, 2010, In : Marriage 



Marriage can provide the greatest opportunities for connection, love and intimacy.  Because we open our hearts so vulnerably to our spouses, we can also experience great pain and struggle in our marriages.  That is why it is essential to consistently be seeking to improve your marriage and connection with your spouse.

Throughout our years in counseling, there has been no greater joy than to see a couple move from a place of hopelessness in their marriage to a place of health and growth.  The...


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Regain Perspective on Life

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Tuesday, November 16, 2010, In : Valuing Self 


In our American culture, most of us are constantly going mach 5 with our hair on fire in regards to our daily schedules.  In other words, we are extremely busy.  There are countless distractions competing for our time and attention.  The problem with this constant spin cycle is that we rarely slow down enough to hear our own thoughts.  If we don't allow ourselves the opportunity to quite the noises all around us, it is very easy to lose perspective on life.

One of the most powerfu...


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Care for Yourself West Palm Beach

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Wednesday, November 10, 2010, In : Valuing Self 



Welcome to the Oliver Counseling blog.  This blog is dedicated to providing you with weekly insights into mental, emotional and relational health.  It is also a place that you can bring your questions about mental health, relationships or counseling in general.  We can take your questions through email and provide answers to them in the form of future blog entries. 

A great place to start as you pursue health in your life is to ask yourself this question, do you value  yourself?  Furthermore,...


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Nathan and Amy Oliver Welcome to the Oliver Counseling blog. This blog is dedicated to providing you with weekly insights into mental, emotional and relational health. It is also a place that you can bring your questions about mental health, relationships or counseling in general. We can take your questions through email and provide answers to them in the form of future blog entries.

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