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Being Vulnerable in Relationships

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Thursday, June 6, 2013, In : Relationships 

One of the biggest issues we have in relationships is being able to fully be ourselves in the presence of another person.  If we are truly vulnerable with someone we take the risk of being hurt, rejected, judged, or shamed.  So instead we only allow others a glimpse of ourselves.  The closer you are to someone and the more your trust someone, the more likely you are do be vulnerable with them. 

People are often able to be more vulnerable in counseling than any other place because they know tha...
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Resolved

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Friday, November 30, 2012, In : Valuing Self 

 

According to a survey of 3,000 participants, 88 percent of all New Years resolutions end in failure. Resolving yourself to pursue a healthy change in your life is very important in beginning to achieve sustained growth.  However, you are most likely to achieve that healthy change if you begin today. Waiting for a certain date in the future greatly decreases the likelihood of you being successful at achieving what you have resolved yourself to.  Start today.  Not next week, or after next mont...


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Three Secrets to Lasting Change

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Tuesday, October 2, 2012, In : Valuing Self 


Over our years of working with people whether it be marriages, addictions, teens, depression, or any other presenting issue, we have seen that there are three pillars that an individual must have in their life in order to support change.  Before they can even establish these pillars, they must first have a strong desire for change. Without having that first, it is unlikely they will do what is needed to establish these pillars.

The first pillar is community.  We live in a culture tha...


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Staying Focused. Accomplishing Your Goals.

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Tuesday, July 31, 2012, In : Valuing Self 
 
There are countless books (a great one we read lately was Getting Things Done by David Allen) out there on motivation, goals, focus, and success.  Maybe you want to lose weight, maybe you want a better job, maybe you want more time with family, or maybe you want to break an addiction.  Whatever it is, you have not done it yet.  You may have wanted to accomplish it for days, weeks, months or even years. 

 

For some it may be depression that holds you back.  Others are locked up with fear of wha...

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Can People Change?

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Tuesday, April 24, 2012, In : Valuing Self 

 
“How many counselors does it take to change a light bulb?  Only one, but the light bulb really has to want to change.”  

Forgive us for the corny joke, but we state it because there is a great deal of truth in it.  When it comes to any true transformation (whether it be addiction, marriage, anxiety, eating disorder, etc.), the greatest indicator of success is the true level of a person’s desire to change.  Many come to counseling skeptical of the idea that people can really change. We h...

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Overcome Addiction Florida

Posted by Nathan Oliver on Monday, October 3, 2011, In : Valuing Self 



One of the greatest thieves that we allow into our daily lives is that of addiction.  Some of you might read that word and want to skip to the next entry thinking it doesn’t apply to you.  I can guarantee it does.  Consider the following description of addiction (the best definition of addiction I have every read) by the author Gerald May from his book Addiction and Grace:

"I am convinced that all human beings have an inborn desire for God.  Whether we are consciously religious or not, thi...


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